November 24, 2002

Posted by Ryan on Sunday, November 24, 2002

Fun Stuff

Grandpa Heaton's funeral went beautifully. It was so impressive to see the outpouring of love people have for this man and his family. Because of how well he preserved his own history, we were able to hear many of his own words read by his children over the pulpit. We want to share three quick things that stuck out to us:

  1. Debbie's telling the "untold story" of how many jobs and trials Alma went through before his legendary work in the recreation and dance programs at BYU. His trials truly prepared him and filled him with a gratitude and joy that could be felt by anyone he met.

  2. Randy's recounting how important it was to Alma to have a home for gospel living. He wanted his kids to love being home and to bring their friends and eventually their own kids. He wanted his Grandkids to come because they wanted to-not because they had to or needed to. We all think his goal was more than accomplished. We want to remember this as we create a home for our own family.

  3. In Grandpa's testimony, he promises to build a home and have it waiting for us on the corner of Amen and Alleluia Street. We're excited that he'll have things ready to greet us.

We were impressed with the beautiful lunch the Relief Society so willingly prepared-with decorated tables and well prepared food and several desserts for 160 people (even though only about 60 ate). I think they so often go unnoticed yet so willingly give of their time and means. Thanks to anyone who has ever helped in baking or serving for a funeral. Just this weekend the Heaton family met at Grandmas to do some deep cleaning. We must have had over 20 people helping out and it went so well. It was awesome to see how willing to help and how supportive a family is pulling together.

Harry Potter may be a little anticlimactic to tell about but it was an important event to us. We don't get out to many movies and have been looking forward to this one ever since the first one came out. We loved the dual between Lockhart and Snape then Malfoy and Harry. The spiders freaked Tamie out. Didn't they have great characters? It was fun to see the Weasley's house and see the triumphant rescue of Harry from his mean Muggle family. The speaking of parsel tongue was also very masterful. We even won a snake pen because we had a picture of Moaning Mertle on our ticket. What a great day!

Thanksgiving was full of delicious food, watching Attack of the Clones then eating Tamie's homemade pumpkin pie at the Halls. At the Heatons', we all got to play Chris's game Dance, Dance Revolution. Ty was especially cute stomping on the circles and pretending to dance.


Ryan entered a website contest through the BYU ebusiness center last week. He competed against fifteen other contestants for a $250 grand prize and won! It was so exciting for us. They even served us really cheap and greasy pizza for dinner (you know the kind with puddles in the pepperoni). I have such a brilliant husband.

Happy Birthday (Nov. 20th) to Tamie's Mom and Ryan's Dad. They both got cool digital cameras-it was hard to tell if the person receiving the gift or Ryan was the most excited. Happy Birthday Sunday the 24th to Tamie's Dad. Whoever ate the cookies we made for him had better beware lest we find out who you are. Be very afraid!

Only 13 1/2 hours and 16 days until Tamie graduates for good. What an awesome and sometimes overwhelming experience it has been. Let's hope she can hold on just this much longer.

Juliet (Tamie's sister) should be getting cabin fever just about now. For those of us who live close, let's try to be there to do things with her and little Kayden more.

Great Grandma Hansen is celebrating her 90th birthday and getting sealed to Grandpa in the Las Vegas temple, Saturday December 7th.

Matt (Ryan's brother) is busy as a Zone leader and trainer in Douliu, Taiwan. Let's remember him and all our missionaries this Christmas.

Ryan is already getting sick but is in denial. As is the pattern, he'll probably crash right after finals and be sick during the break. It kind of stinks.

Spiritual Thought

I'm not feeling especially spiritual. I'm feeling kind of distracted, annoyed and pregnant so I'll defer to Ryan if he wants to inspire you all....

...Okay, I'll share with you a simple thought from this last conference. Elder Neil A. Maxwell said: "Recall the new star that announced the birth at Bethlehem? It was in its precise orbit long before it so shone. We are likewise placed in human orbits to illuminate. Divine correlation functions not only in the cosmos but on this planet, too."

The idea is simple, but very applicable at this time of year. We're always looking for grand, highly visible acts of service to do. You know what I mean: a huge quilting activity for war victims, sending food to starving people in Africa, and a canned food drive for the poor in the community. Don't get me wrong-these are all noble causes. But why does our service always have to be centered on people we don't even know-somebody outside of our sphere of influence?

The most meaningful acts of service are those that are performed within our own sphere of influence: our family, close friends, neighbors, and coworkers. Not only are we in a position to really sense what is needed, but we're in a position to make the biggest impact because of how close they are to us. Let's have faith in the orbit in which our Heavenly Father has placed us.


Ryan, Tamie, Tyran, and Baby

November 3, 2002

Posted by Ryan on Sunday, November 3, 2002


Grandpa Alma Heaton (many of you have shared fun memories at his backyard with us) passed away Wednesday night, October 30 around 10:30 p.m. We will miss him and never forget him. We know he will have everything ready for us to have a lot of fun when he greets us some day on the other side. His viewing will be Monday night from 6-8 p.m. at Berg mortuary then his funeral is Tuesday at 11:00 a.m. at their chapel. Grandpa will be buried at Provo cemetery very close to his own home.

Baby Roxburgh (they're still deciding between 12 names) was born to Juliet and Rob at 12:34 a.m. on November 2nd weighing 7 lbs 15 oz. He has a lot of beautiful dark hair and we can't wait to get to know this little guy sent to us from heaven. Juliet did an incredible job (see Spiritual Lessons).

It has been awhile since we made a list of Ty's new cute things. Those of you who are sick of doting parents can skip this part.

  • Whenever we pass McDonald's he enthusiastically point and says "ohhhh! ohhhh" several times very loudly.
  • He's at the babbitemng stage where he just looks right at you and talks itemke you should understand every word he says. The cutest part of his babbles is his interspersed laughs while he's talking.
  • When he reaitemzed the water is coming in sacrament meeting he gives his excited "oh-ho-ho (with a itemttle laugh)" then says a itemttle too loudly "watoh!" We have to always be sure to bring extra bread and water so he doesn't throw a fit about wanting more from the trays.
  • He is just learning to say prayers. He does sign language for thank you then we thank Heavenly Father for the things he knows how to say (the moon, church, mommy, daddy, kitty, bee, blankly, binky, na night, water, Jesus, etc.) It is so cute. He also folds his arms for prayer and knows that amen means he can unfold them.
  • All of a sudden one day he became scared of the dark. When the itemghts are off and it's dark outside he will run to us patting his chest (the sign for scared).
  • I think he could push his lawnmower up and down the street all day long. He is never happy to come inside (sometimes it will work to bribe him with La-La and Nu-Nu-Teletubbies).
  • His favorite food lately is yogurt-you'd think we were giving him a whole bag of candy all to himself when he sees the itemttle cartons in the fridge.
  • All of a sudden he has begun to notice what he's wearing. He refused to wear some fleece overalls the other day. He was so excited when Grandma Heaton got him a new shirt with "choo-choo's" on it and he was so excited to have a new pair of shoes to wear. He is so cute when he says "soooes!" and puckers up his itemps dramatically to get the "sh" sound as best as he can.
  • Spiritual Lessons

    We have included several recent events in our spiritual thought this week so it will be the bulk of our newsletter.

    Do you know that I love you?

    When Ryan and I go to bed, Ryan moves Ty from his portable crib in the bedroom to his crib out in the main living area. A sleeping baby is one of the sweetest things and we always love to see what creative sleeping position Ty has settled on for the night. You just watch him as your heart melts. Often as Ryan picks Ty up he will whisper to him "do you know that I love you?" Most often, Ty doesn't respond at all since he is sleeping. Once in a while he will give a little whine as if to say "leave me alone, I'm tired!" Once or twice though, he has sweetly responded to Ryan's question with a soft "ya." I think it's those "ya's" as well as Ryan's bursting love of a father that have kept Ryan asking.

    Today, as I sat in fast and testimony meeting, I was thinking about the question "do you know that I love you." It hit me that our father is constantly asking us this question. It may be through the beautiful world around us (for example, the day before Halloween the autumn leaves were falling off trees like snowflakes from the sky-it was magical!), the love of our own parents, grandparents and siblings, an answered prayer, a kind face or a thousand other ways. I also realized that my response is very similar to Ty's. Usually I just stay sleeping. I fail to recognize the love he's sending. Sometimes I will brush it off because I am too tired and don't want to be bothered and very rarely will I allow it into my heart and really feel his love responding with a soft "ya."

    Recently, we have felt an outpouring of Gods pure love in spending time with our family in Snowbird, taking Grandma Meyers to the Zoo, and feeling support from the Grandmas as school has begun to press in on us. We have especially been overwhelmed with the love God gives us through our families in our last visit with Grandpa Heaton and in the reflection on the legacy he has left and then two days later in welcoming our first nephew into this world.


    Grandpa's last family home evening with everyone was last Sunday. He sat on the couch holding Grandma's hand and looking so happy, peaceful and content as Sam gave a lesson on overcoming adversity. When Grandpa was asked for his closing remarks they were brief and heartfelt. He expressed his great love for his family and how blessed he felt to have us all living so close. He thanked us for being there. I think we all felt the great spirit and love of that man. How incredible to sit by your wife of 60+ years at 88 years old, realizing you are going to die soon, and being surrounded by your ever-growing posterity. This man has truly been blessed for his righteousness and we are each receiving multiplied blessings to pass onto our own children.

    Ryan and I have been reading his autobiography and are so glad he has written down his experiences and his insights on life. It is really a treasure and we will be able to continue his stories and advice now for our own children then theirs and so on. I will share one thought that struck me from his words this week. He encourages us to watch less and do more as well as to buy less and make more. True joy is found in creativity and in being physically, spiritually and mentally active. Perhaps this is why his requested closing song for the funeral is "Carry On!" I certainly won't forget Grandpas own ingenuity in his home and backyard. When it is time for us to buy things for our own home I will consider the possibility of doing it ourselves more often.

    The love we felt from Grandpa last Sunday was an accumulation of lifelong learning and the increased ability to recognize God's love then share it and watch it multiply. This love brought him much joy that penetrates each of us. He really did know how to enjoy life. Jenna mentioned in her testimony today that she's sure the people in heaven are having a lot of fun right now! He undoubtedly answered "ya" when God asked "Do you know that I love you?"


    Every family member was there Friday afternoon and evening as Juliet and Rob labored to welcome their new son and our new nephew. Tears wet our cheeks watching her suffering then began to flow freely as this new little life emerged into the world. He comes so innocent and so loved. His life will begin with receiving unconditional love from his parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and other family members. He will, as we all often do, take this love for granted for a long time until he is taught to recognize it for how pure and divine it is. As he learns to answer "ya" to the question "do you know that I love you?" he will then begin to experience the peace and joy that God intends him to have. Not only that but his love will become more Godlike as he has his own family and loves his own children.

    God's plan is just so beautiful. I am grateful that I woke up this week and was able to answer "ya" to God's prompting "do you know that I love you?"

    "A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another." --John 13:34



    P.S. To see more pictures of the labor, you can visit Sorry we had the nightshot on (poor quality).